Re finding myself

The past couple of weeks have been tough and putting it all on here requires a tremendous amount of effort on my part. I am not going to bother you with the details of my heartbreak or the how, why and by who, but I am here to narrate how I decided to react.

Getting over a heartbreak is never easy, but throughout the years I have learnt how to move on faster; it is not something I do consciously, my mind just seems to remove immediate memories in order to let me heal as fast as possible. That does not mean that the memories will not resurface from time to time, but at least the immediate response helped me breathe more easily.

When you go back to being alone the focus and attention you were giving the other person has to go somewhere else; I decided to push it towards myself. I noticed that I had somehow lost my glamorous and unique self which I always had going on and only found it when I went out on dates. I lost my smile and sense of humour due to all of the pain and suffering. I needed to find all of that and get it back.

Focusing back on myself meant following a couple of steps:

  • Drink more water: this is necessary for glowing skin and overall great health. This is the number one step in any good routine;
  • Focus on skincare: having a good base to lay makeup on is always a key factor;
  • Read more: this is a good life tip in general. You can never read too much and you can never be too educated, reading everyday, wether for recreational or educational reasons, should be a priority;
  • Go out: the worst thing that you can do is isolate yourself from the outside world and wallow is self pity. Going out forces you to wear makeup (if you want to), get pretty and be sociable, at least in my case, so it is the best thing you can do;
  • Be open: do not close your heart to other people just because of a bad experience, or because of a thousand ones. No matter what, the bravest thing to do is start clean and open, with no prejudice, but with the knowledge of the past.

I suppose this is all. I am obviously still working on all of this, but the important thing is starting. I hope you enjoyed this post and thank you for reading.

xx

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Book Review – The Power of Habit

Do not hate me, please. I know I have been absent for the past two months, but for good reason. I had my finals at high school and I mean my final finals. I graduated from high school! I am so happy and relieved and stress free it does not even seem real. I can finally read the books I want to read and chill and enjoy summer…until September comes along and UNI starts, but I am excited about that.

So here I am, back with another book review. This time I bring you The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. I bought this book at the JFK airport in New York, on my way back in March. As soon as I saw it (the cover does attract attention) I wanted it. It cost $16 and it is worth so much more than that.

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The genre it is part of is Business/Psychology and that explains half of it. Charles Duhigg decided to research why people do certain thing in life and business. He put together all the research done by scientists regarding habits and habit loops and cravings and served it to us on a pretty and understandable platter. I must say that the book is full of real life examples, also of pretty famous people (Michael Phelps was my favourite one). It is the kind of book that, if you take very seriously and practice what it preaches, could change your life.

It tells you how to recognise habits, how to re-wire them for your gain and how to apply that in every area of your life. I am very happy to have found this book and it is the first of its type that I read; I already have a long list of others like this to purchase.

Score: 9/10

Thank you so much for reading.

xx

 

Book Review – Madame Bovary

As you can see, I put the movie poster as the featured image again since my book was plain blue and not as pretty as Mia Wasikowska.

This book was a journey. Once again, as with some of the most recents reads of mine, it is set in the 19th Century. It starts with the background of Charles Bovary, a doctor, and how he ends up getting married to Emma, the daughter of one of his patients. She wants a more Parisian life, while he is a typical country doctor who loves the small town they live in. She starts dreaming about the high life and starts behaving like a rich lady, gaining debts upon debts. This book is famously infamous for its adulterous affairs. Emma ends up cheating on Charles with two men, Rodolphe and Léon. The first one leaves her, not ready for commitment, while Emma’s story with Léon is a bit more complicated. This book does not have a happy ending, but I will most certainly not spoil it for you.

Did I like this book? Yes, but not as much as others. It is one of the very few romance-themed books I have ever read and it is permeated with political views who come primarily  from one character, Homais, whom I ended up despising the most at the end of this book.

I would give this book a 7/10 rating. I will leave you once again with some quotes I liked :

“She wanted to die, but she also wanted to live in Paris.”

“Love, she thought, must come suddenly, with great outbursts and lightnings,–a hurricane of the skies, which falls upon life, revolutionises it, roots up the will like a leaf, and sweeps the whole heart into the abyss.”

“He had carefully avoided her out of the natural cowardice that characterizes the stronger sex.”

Xx

Book Review – Doctor Sleep

Disclaimer : the photo above was not shot by me, but it was taken from Wikipedia. I would have taken a photo of my book, but I threw the dustcover away. I like the feel of the actual raw book in my hands, not the plastic cover on it.

Ah, Stephen King. Where do I even start? He is the one man who can make me look under the bed twice by just writing a sentence. The way this man writes is unlike any other and it makes me want to devour his books in record time, while listening for the smallest noises in my house.

I read The Shining this summer, usually during the night. Bad choice on my part. In order to finish it and get the “happy ending” (for lack of a better term) I stayed up until 3 am. Having read a couple of his other works (It, Full Dark no Stars), which I have added in my favourite books post , I can honestly say that The Shining is the one that terrified me the most. Maybe it is because it talks about a father who turns on his family, albeit not on his own will, maybe because there is a child involved; I do not know what it is, but it is the most terrifying book I have read to date.

Fast forward to Doctor Sleep : Danny, the protagonist and one of the survivors of his father’s rage, is all grown up and he fell right in his father’s footsteps : he became an alcoholic. After a significant event which will haunt him for the rest of his life, he decides to put down roots in a small city, where he also finds a job in an hospice. His job, although his contract might disagree , is to bring comfort to dying patients, guiding them towards the end. In a nearby town, a couple of days before 9/11, a baby is born, called Abra, who shows the same abilities that Dan has, but much stronger. The two are destined to meet once they find out that a group of seemingly immortal individuals, the True Knot, that tortures and kills children like Abra in order to live longer, is after the girl herself. They, along with some other friends and family, have to defeat the Knot and its leader, Rose.

Well, let me just say that this is a 500 page book and I finished it in 4-5 days. That says a lot about this book : I could not put it down. It was full of action and turning points (one which left me literally shocked), in true King style, from start to finish. The thing I probably liked most is, besides the story and the action itself, the fact that Dan is extremely relatable : he did exactly what I thought he would not. First he was an alcoholic, then he went and got help and, even if he could have stayed out of the chaos, he was willing to risk and potentially lose his life for the little girl who, in my opinion, he saw as his young female counterpart. Dan is not your typical hero, he is not spotless, he is flawed; but despite those flaws he still made the right decision, simply because his willpower is strong.

As you can see, I did enjoy this book quite a lot. Therefore I give it a 9/10.

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